When writing this week’s blog, I reflected on what topic to cover. During a recent support call, someone asked: “When should I let go of someone who’s harming my recovery, even though I’m trying to help them get sober?” This question sparked a thought and led me to explore when to hold on and when to let go. This topic resonates with many of us, especially those who’ve chosen to transform their lives for the better.
Understanding Addiction and Its Impact
Addiction happens when someone feels unable to function without a specific substance or behavior, sometimes even for an hour or a minute. It affects not only the individual but also their family and community. Often, family cycles of addiction go unnoticed or unaddressed. As you read this, addiction continues to impact countless lives.
The Importance of Healthy Boundaries
To know when to let go or hold on, you must understand healthy boundaries in relationships. For example, telling your partner, “Now isn’t a good time to talk, but I’ll be ready later,” sets a healthy boundary. Another example is putting your phone on Do Not Disturb (DND) at 6 PM to prioritize family time. Recognize the difference between supporting someone and enabling them. Sometimes, our help can hinder recovery. Reflect on the boundaries you need to set for your own recovery goals.
Effective Communication in Recovery
Effective communication is vital for recovery. It’s not just about being heard but also practicing active listening and engaging in meaningful dialogue. Create safe spaces where people can talk without fear of judgment. These environments are essential for recovery.
Self-Care for Supporters
Self-care is critical for those supporting others in recovery. If you’re a supporter, develop strategies to manage stress and emotional fatigue. We often pour energy into others, so we need to replenish ourselves. Choose self-care practices that suit your needs, not someone else’s journey. Reflect on what helps you not just survive but thrive in recovery. You deserve to grow and find peace.
Resources and Support for Recovery
Numerous resources, like hotlines, counseling, and support groups, are available. At Believe Detox Center, we host a free support group every Saturday at 3 PM Pacific for individuals and their loved ones (Join here). A strong support network is invaluable in recovery. Start building or strengthening yours today, and seek help immediately when needed.
Conclusion: Prioritize Self-Preservation
Navigating relationships with someone struggling with addiction while in recovery is challenging. Self-preservation is key. Setting boundaries, fostering effective communication, and prioritizing self-care help you maintain peace. You’ve chosen sobriety, and you deserve the best. Keep supporting others, but ensure you’re getting the help you need too.
